#1 2010-10-23 05:53:17
...ok, now that I got my guilty conscience out of the way, me and my first girlfriend, seriously, first ever, have come into our first hard times. I need some outside info(which is pretty obvious since I'm pursuing such info on the birthchild of cruel.com). I'm 31 and have dated a phenomenally hot girl for 2 years. I'm determining one week into this drama(fighting), that once the first fight happens, no matter what you do...you are naturally wrong. Am I correct? If so, do I pursue this as an old world asian governor, and do nothing for a while, as doing nothing makes you not accountable for anything?
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#2 2010-10-23 06:45:13
One fight? Really? You are willing to give up after one fight? Think about how that makes you look to her and everyone else?
A fight (which you KNOW you will HAVE to tell us the premise sooner or later) just means that you both have backbones and things which you are not willing to give up. What matters the most is what happens next. Do you both huff off to your corners and glare at each other or do you come together like adults and discuss what is causing the friction and find some common ground? Maybe neither of you is willing to give up enough to come to a compromise, and that's a legitimate outcome. But giving up before manning up enough to talk about it just makes you a spineless choad.
Fighting with your partner is like having a cavity in your tooth. It's painful to have and even more painful to deal with, but left untreated it will only get worse.
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#3 2010-10-23 08:58:01
The Goob is correct in everything he said above.
Also, if you've been together in a serious way for two years, and have never had a serious conflict before now...Well, though I don't know any details, I suspect there are some serious issues which you (probably both of you) have been avoiding and which have festered.
As far as being "naturally wrong" goes: with the strong disclaimer, once again, that I don't know the particulars of this matter, and speaking only in general...Would you rather be right and win the argument, or would you rather have a girlfriend? It's up to you.
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#4 2010-10-23 09:19:03
Man Bulletin!!!
You are Wrong.
She is Right.
Buy Roses and Chocolates.
Get used to it brother...
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#5 2010-10-23 12:09:50
Ok, I'm gonna help you out here.
If she really is "phenomenally hot" just cave in and agree with her all of the time. One would have to assume that since you never had a girlfriend until you were 29 that you are either really ugly or have no redeeming qualities. Do what she wants, say what she wants to hear, eat her.
If you think it would help, I'll fuck her and try not to do a very good job. Then she will see how awesome you are and then you can be in control of all things.
Please send me a picture of her and maybe some home movies of you humping her. I will study them and then set up an appointment for me to fuck the only girlfriend you ever had.
Hope this helps, you are in my prayers.
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#6 2010-10-23 14:05:40
Fortinbras was quite vocal on fnord's "butt sex song" post. Methinks this argument is of the "doo- doo chute sex'" variety.
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#7 2010-10-23 14:08:02
Listen closely:
On occasion I agree to do what the Boss wants without telling her how right she is. Usually because she's wrong, some of the time because I'm stubborn. It always pisses her off and I pay for it later. Emmeran is right, she's correct and you're not. Get used to it.
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#8 2010-10-23 14:27:30
Use the D.E.N.N.I.S. system!
Last edited by Dirckman (2010-10-23 14:47:56)
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#9 2010-10-23 17:16:21
While I’m concerned about your dilemma, I can’t really offer you advice about dealing with women. Dealing with another man is very different from dealing with a woman. Partner™ and I have had a few moments in our twenty years, but after biting our tongues, taking a lot of deep breaths, and counting to twenty, we sat down and negotiated our issues. I just dumped previous partners who behaved in a confrontational bitchy overly emotional manner, including one who raised his fist. I calmly told that one the relationship (and his surgically enhanced facial symmetry) would be over the first time I was hit; he lowered his fist, but the relationship was over anyway soon after this incident.
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#10 2010-10-23 18:55:36
You have been very, very bad. You deserve a good pegging you naughty naughty boy! Ask her nicely....
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#11 2010-10-23 19:03:36
Dmtdust wrote:
You have been very, very bad. You deserve a good pegging you naughty naughty boy! Ask her nicely....
We haven't done that in 3 weeks :(.
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